Hello again, hope you all feeling wonderful in every way
since what you’re feeling is your choice, is it not?
Now if you haven’t feeling wonderful in every way quite just yet, Now is the only perfect time to decide so.
You all must be still familiar with “Perception is Projection, haven’t you ?
It is actually remind me of some discussion I had I my NLP Master Practitioner class last weekend, and this isn’t metaphor by the way… J
Looking at the word “I LOVE YOU”, let me ask a simple question that we might all experience the same way.
When you have some one close to you like your spouse, children, brother, sister, say “I love you” what would you feel or what would that makes you feel?
Let me guess, you would be happy, wouldn’t you?
Let us a moment really looks at what make the word “I love you” makes us happy.
To my point of view, you happy to hear that because it contains “you”. The meaning you impart is complex because it consist “you”. And yet it becomes one of the most valuable, personal and emotional words, I should say that is the most emotional phrase in our language. I reckon people like this emotional phrase because there are in it, imagine it without “you” It won’t be excited you much, will it?
When you hear this phrase, what you simply do is actually associate it with your past, the childhood you imprint, the past experience of love you ever had, or even unspoken expectation.
Thus “I love you” expand into …
I Love you if you accept my family
I love you because you treat me well
I love you as long as you will always be with me
I love you more than everything but please don’t ask me to die for you
I love you if you love me too
False love operates by projection!
“Projection always hides a feeling that you don’t want to look at” – Deepak Chopra
The phrase we use is all about association.
Just inspect “I love you” in your head, I bet it is all about association too.
The word it self violated by your past experience, as your mind ties it with association, and could be misleading.
What I want to convey is, that we rarely see people who they truly are. We related our current situation with what we had in the past. We carry around mental image about people in the past.
When you meet a totally new person and you think person in front looks like your classmate, your high school teacher, etc. the resemble of new people being good or bad is none of them come from them but our mental processes
And again, Perception is Projection,
Projection distorts our perception in a different way; it could be attaches our belief to other person. Someone says “You don’t love me” perhaps this person projecting “ I am not loveable”. And this is so painful and you cannot say it to your self thus you need to project it out onto other.
If you would, please list down people you intensively dislike, disapprove, or had a strong conflict with and put 4 most offensive qualities.
e.g.
My neighbor – Arrogant, rude, selfish, uncaring
My boss – Strong-headed, unappreciative with my work, unfair, temperamental
If you examine negatives trait in another person, then more like you will find that in you. The more you deny the stronger it become, and the more you need to project it out.
No matter how you convince yourself that is not you, the answer always is the most you that you’ve been repressed and need to be projected out.
This isn’t easy to be everyday contemplation, therefore we must begin NOW.
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Issa